As you probably already know, pregnancy can be quite stressful. There are certain things that happen before, during and after the pregnancy that can really take it out of you. It can be quite stressful.
In fact, it can be so stressful and so upsetting that a lot of marriages go on the rocks. I’m not talking necessarily about couples divorcing, but you can expect a tremendous amount of strain and pressure on your relationship caused by pregnancy.
It is no surprise that a lot of Italian women have decided not to have children because of the distortions, disruptions, and otherwise turbulent nature of having a child. A lot of people realize that having a child is not something that you do just because your parents told you to do it. It’s not something that you get into because there is some sort of rite of passage or some sort of social expectation from you.
People in Italy have outgrown that. We are a modern people and we have modern mindsets. And children, by and large, is not part of the agenda. In fact, Italy has one of the lowest birth rates in Europe, if not the world.
Why is this? Well, it really boils down to prenatal, post natal, and child-related issues. It’s one thing to look at the picture of a cute baby, it’s another to actually change diapers, clean vomit, and deal with tantrums. And that’s the convenient stuff.
Can you imagine dealing with a kid who is suffering from colic? You can’t get any sleep. And it would be nice if the colic stopped when the kid is two years old, but it’s anybody’s guess. If you have a child with colic, you know exactly where I’m coming from.
It’s against this background that a lot of Italian couples, of all ages, are starting to doubt motherhood. And I really can’t blame them because a lot of people simply are not prepared. And one of the most neglected practices that plays a big role in what you do before, during and after a pregnancy is prenatal massage.
A lot of Italian couples are completely ignorant of this and this causes all sorts of problems. We’re not necessarily talking about medical problems, although that is definitely an issue, I am also talking about bonding between partners.
Make no mistake about it, when you do prenatal massage right before your partner gives birth, you reassure her. You cement your bond. You reconnect on a deep level. This ensures that there is a sense of togetherness. You are part of one team when you give her a good prenatal massage.
You don’t even have to do this yourself. You can have a professional do it while you watch. Whatever the case may be, you need to bond because this is a major turning point in both of your lives.
Unfortunately, a lot of people, and it doesn’t really matter whether they’re Italian or not, are completely blind to this. They think that this is just another expense. They think that this is just another customary practice that is ultimately optional.
In fact, a lot of people think that this is just one of those things that you can just go through the motions about. Well, you can’t go through the motions. Either you do it right or you don’t do it at all.
Make no mistake about it, in study after study, a little bit of investment in prenatal massage can go a long way in cementing the bond between parents as well as the bond between the future mother and the child. This is one of those things involving your partner’s pregnancy that you really need to look into. It is definitely a great investment of your time, effort and focus.